10 Surprising Realities for First-Time Moms
Am I *really* supposed to feel this way?? REALLY?!
No matter how many pregnancy books you devour or birthing classes you attend, nothing quite prepares you for the surprises that come with bringing home your first baby. Here’s a heads-up on some of the things that might catch you off guard…so you can feel a little more prepared if they happen.
The Size of Those Hospital Pads
After months without a period, the giant pads your nurse hands you might seem a bit much. But trust me, you’ll need them! Before heading home, grab a few extras from the hospital—they’ll come in handy.
Your Breasts When Your Milk Comes In
A few days after giving birth, you might wake up to find that your breasts have suddenly ballooned in size. This dramatic change is your milk coming in, and while it’s normal, it can also be a bit overwhelming. Engorgement can happen, so it’s good to know how to manage it – don’t be afraid to ask your nurse or lactation consultant for help!
Postpartum Bleeding Lasts a While
Postpartum bleeding, also known as lochia, can last up to six weeks. It’s normal for the bleeding to gradually decrease over time, but if you’re ever concerned, don’t hesitate to reach out to your healthcare provider.
Exhaustion Takes on a Whole New Meaning
You thought you were tired during pregnancy (and you were!!), but nothing compares to the exhaustion that comes with a newborn. Between late-night feedings and constant care, sleep can feel…just like a dream that you never get. Accept help when it’s offered, and try to rest whenever you can. Cat naps count!
Forgetting Self-Care
How can such a tiny person consume so much of your time? Newborns have a way of making even the simplest tasks, like eating or showering, seem impossible. Don’t stress about having everything under control—most new parents feel this way until a routine starts to form.
Instant Love for Your Baby
You’ve probably heard people say that you’ll fall in love with your baby the moment you meet them. It might sound cliché, but for many new parents, it’s absolutely true. The bond you feel can be overwhelming and wonderful.
Or Not Feeling That Instant Connection
On the flip side, not everyone who just gave birth feels an immediate connection with their baby—and that’s okay. This is normal and doesn’t mean anything is automatically wrong. But if you’re worried or if these feelings persist, talk to your doctor or midwife to rule out postpartum depression or anxiety.
Leaking Milk Everywhere
Once your milk comes in, you might feel like you’re leaking all the time—during feedings, from the side your baby isn’t nursing on, or even just hearing another baby cry. Nursing pads can help, but just know that this is a common part of the breastfeeding journey.
Still Looking Pregnant After Birth
Don’t be surprised if you still look pregnant when you leave the hospital. It takes about six weeks for your uterus to shrink back to its pre-pregnancy size. Hold on to your maternity clothes for a bit longer and give yourself grace—your body just did something amazing!
They Really Let You Take the Baby Home
Yes, it’s true—they trust you to bring this tiny human home, even if you don’t feel ready. But take a deep breath—you’ve got this! It might be daunting, but you’ll find your way as you go.
These are just a few of the surprises that come with being a new parent. Remember, every journey is unique, and it’s okay to experience a wide range of emotions. You’re doing great!
Until next time,
Dr. Jen