Having a C-Section? Here’s How Your Family and Friends Can Lend a Hand
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So, you’ve got a C-section scheduled? While it might not be the birth experience you initially imagined, knowing ahead of time gives you a huge advantage: planning! You’re not just gearing up to become a new parent, but you’ll also be recovering from surgery.
Luckily, that’s where your family and friends come in. Here's how they can help you sail smoothly through recovery and those first days with your new baby.
1. Get the Inside Scoop
Have friends or family members who’ve had C-sections? Ask them to share their experiences. But choose wisely—skip the chronic complainers and go for someone who’ll give you a balanced view of what to expect. Keep in mind that everyone’s experience is different, but hearing from others can give you a sense of what’s ahead.
2. Make Prep Time Fun
Since you know when your C-section is happening, plan a little self-care weekend! Think massages, manicures, or just hanging out with your closest friends. It’s a great way to relax before the big day and soak up some quality time with loved ones before your life gets a whole lot busier.
3. Get Childcare Help on Call
Got other kids (or fur babies) at home? Ask your crew to step in as babysitters while you’re in the hospital. Knowing that someone you trust has things under control will ease your mind and let you focus on recovery and bonding with your newborn.
4. Prep Your Crew for Hospital Protocol
Heads up: hospitals usually limit visitors after a C-section, and sometimes surgeries get delayed. Let your support team know they might have to wait a bit to meet the baby. Better yet, have them hang tight until you’re ready for visitors. After all, you’ll need time to recover and settle in.
5. Keep Hospital Visits Short and Sweet
When your family and friends do visit, remind them that you’re healing from surgery in addition to adjusting to life as a new parent. Short, thoughtful visits are best—this way you can rest and bond with your little one without feeling overwhelmed or getting behind on pain control or rest.
6. Get the House Ready for Your Homecoming
While you’re in the hospital, ask your friends and family to help stock the fridge, tidy up, and even start a meal train for the first few weeks. Don’t be shy—it’s a small favor that makes a big difference when you get home. Your future self will thank you!
7. Help at Home = A Lifesaver
Once you’re home, accept the help! Let your visitors handle some chores, run errands, or watch the baby while you grab a nap or shower. Don’t forget that you’re recovering from surgery, so let others take care of the heavy lifting and chauffeuring while you take it easy.
8. Feel Free to Ignore the Door
It’s okay to skip impromptu visits. Put up a “We’re Resting” sign to prevent surprise guests from waking you (or the baby) with the doorbell. Rest and recovery come first, and your friends will understand. If they don’t, well…that’s all I’m gonna say here…
9. No Guilt Allowed
Unfortunately, some people might make comments about C-sections being the “easy” way out. Spoiler alert: they’re wrong. And also, WTF people – who says that?! A C-section is major surgery, and if anyone gives you flack, just remember—you did what was best for you and your baby.
Until next time,
Dr. Jen